Episode Transcript
Alara Sage (00:09.56)
Hello, hello, and welcome to another episode of Wealth Embodied, where we activate and inspire you in your wealth consciousness, your creative genius, and your visionary impact. I'm your host, Alara Sage. And today I want to talk about loneliness.
What I see a lot of times in powerful female leaders is a lack of intimacy, a lack of connection, and for good reason.
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We've been taught to be this way.
particularly feminine leaders have been taught, have been told, have been shown that their softness, their tenderness is not welcome in the world.
And this has largely disconnected women from our sensuality and from our creative life force energy, from our power.
Alara Sage (01:13.73)
You know, the stoic woman, right? I grew up in a family where my feminine lineage is very stoic.
It's very much this facade of you can do anything. You're so strong. You know, you're indestructible.
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But as I personally grew into my feminine power, I recognized that
That's not power.
That's disconnection.
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And what that creates is a lack of fulfillment.
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Because to be fulfilled is to be deeply connected to life. It's really never about the thing that we're trying to accomplish. Fulfillment is never about the goal. It's never about the end result. It's never about the business or the wealth, the success, or the relationship. Fulfillment is actually found in creation.
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the process of creation, the aliveness of creation, the deep connection to.
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God as we create, that is what not only creates fulfillment, but truly creates fulfillment that continues to grow and evolve.
Otherwise, it really is you accomplish something. And then what happens when you accomplish that, right? That fulfillment, that joy goes away. It's kind of like you finish reading a really great book. And part of you wants to get to the end of the book. And the other part of you knows that once the book ends, the book ends. And now you're not entertained.
the book anymore, whatever that whether that's learning entertainment, writer or fiction entertainment.
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And we've been taught that this is what it means to be filled in life to get the thing, do the thing, accomplish the goal. When you reach that goal, it is very much like the sexual orgasm. You peak. And unless you're embodied,
And unless you're deeply connected to your sexual power, you peak and that's it. even some women, they understand how to have multiple orgasms, but multiple orgasm is not the same as multidimensional orgasm.
Multidimensional orgasm keeps going for hours and hours after the experience. And you can experience multidimensional orgasm in the act of sex, or you can experience it in creating your life. You know, this is one of the things I'm really here to teach people how to do is to live ecstatically, to create ecstatically, to be in a state of ecstatic creation with your life.
And sometimes that feels kind of very obtuse and far away. So I like to bring it back to the experience of orgasm because everybody, for the most part, has experienced that and they understand what that sensation in the body feels like. living in a state of ecstatic creation is perpetual orgasm.
Not to necessarily its peak, but those waves of pleasure, arousal, pleasure moving through your body.
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But when women believe that their sensuality, their softness, their emotions, their femininity is not allowed or there isn't space for that in business, there isn't space for that in leadership. We close down our most magnetic self. Just think of that, our most magnetic self is shut down.
and what these women experience is the state of loneliness. But loneliness has nothing to do with.
being around other people or not. It's about the connection to yourself and to God. That's what loneliness actually shows you. That's why you can feel lonely and you can go out and hang out with bunch of people and you still feel lonely. Or again, you might be temporarily satiated in an experience of communion and community and friends. And then when you depart that experience, what returns? The loneliness.
Right? experiences that have nothing truly holding them up. So the orgasm that climaxes and then that's the end. being out with the friends, right? The feeling of connection and then you leave your friends and it collapses and you're back into loneliness. The hitting the goal, the striving and achieving and then it collapses back into what now?
These might seem like three different things, but they're actually fundamentally the same. It all points to deep intimacy and connection.
Alara Sage (06:55.603)
And it starts with our bodies.
Understanding that connection starts with our bodies, loving our bodies, feeling good in our bodies, feeling sexy, turned on in our bodies. It's not about what you look like. Sexiness is not about what you look like. It's about how you feel. I'm a big proponent of women wearing things that they feel sexy in because when you feel sexy, guess what? You're sexy.
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You walk different, you carry yourself different. You are in the frequency of turn on and magnetism.
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But women have been taught to hate our bodies, to judge our bodies, to want to change our bodies. So the very thing that connects women to their magnetism, to their power, to this deep state of erotic creation, their bodies, are the very thing that has been targeted to be not enough. And how dare you age? Because then you're out of
the pot, you're no longer a part of the conversation.
Alara Sage (08:24.077)
So I know I'm throwing a lot of information out here because I want to make these several different connections that I want you to draw your awareness to how all of this unfulfillment, all of this loneliness, all of this emptiness. Not being satiated. It's never enough. This all stems from a lack of connection and intimacy, first and foremost, with the self. With the body.
with the emotions. And if you're listening to this and you struggle with what I'm speaking to.
We're about to enter an era where feeling becomes the forefront.
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And that is so radically different to where we've been, it not? Don't feel, don't bring your emotions, don't be emotional.
But we're stepping into a higher level of intelligence that shows us our emotions connect. You know, when we feel we're connected to all this information going on in our bodies, we're connected to the limiting beliefs that we carry about the particular experience. We're connected to the energies that are moving in our bodies. When we're with other people and there's emotion, we're connected to each other.
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When you are in a room with somebody who's in a state of emotion and you're open to that, you feel them, you feel deeply connected to them. Even if you don't understand exactly what they're going through, the truth is, is that you have experienced the emotion that they are feeling. And that is a connecting factor. Right? So the story.
might be different, might be experiencing a story of sadness. And while you may not have ever experienced the actual events, you've experienced sadness and that connects you. So do you see how this, the body, the feeling, the emotion connects us, but it connects us much more than just to our bodies and just even to each other. It connects us to the pulse of life.
The rhythm of wisdom, because you can feel this rhythm when you're attuned, when you open back up to your emotions, you can feel the rhythm of creation and you can align to that rhythm. And that's fulfillment because now you are creating in coherence with creation, coherence with God, coherence with source, with love. That is
quite the ride, quite the wave to ride. You know, it's the surfer with the perfect wave that comes and picks you up and carries you as you get to enjoy the ride of that wave. That's what fulfillment actually is.
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But if a surfer is not connected to the waves into the ocean and how that energy moves underneath it, it will either miss the wave or over a paddle and get plummeted by the wave and get sucked underneath and all the different ways the surfers fall and fail and get sucked under and quite literally plummeted by the power of the ocean.
why surfing is so addicting because it's feeling that power and being a part of that power. And that's what it is when we are in a state of ecstatic creation, when we learn how to align our wombs and our hearts and our third eyes, and we work in this state of coherence to what actually ignites us. We learn to trust that we learn to listen, we learn to take action, we learn to let go.
of attachment and the mind and the understanding and the analysis and the need to know. We ride the wave.
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It doesn't matter what happens. There's fulfillment in the process. It doesn't matter if you crash. You ever watched surfers, they crash and they, know, woohoo, yes, because it's part of it. So when you're in a state of fulfillment, it's not that you're not going to make mistakes, but you won't feel that loneliness. You'll feel a state of deep connection to life, all of life.
You can't possibly feel alone or lonely when you feel deeply connected to life.
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and you'll let yourself make the mistakes and you'll celebrate them because they teach you something and they show you something and they they accentuate that aliveness that you're here living as a human. You're here to make mistakes. Isn't that glorious?
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So if you experience loneliness and you experience, you know, brief satiation followed by emptiness.
If you experience this space where.
You don't know how to connect with others. You don't know how to connect with your body. You judge your body. You don't feel sexy in your body. Then my love, this is truly for you about connecting to your feminine power and regaining that is something that has not been on the planet for over 5000 years. I love to say that because it's an extraordinary amount of time.
And, you know, epigenetics proves that we pass down belief structures at least seven generations. OK, five thousand years is a lot more than seven generations. Imagine how many beliefs we've passed down around feminine power, right, around erotic intelligence, being in your sensuality and your pleasure as a woman. These things have been unheard of.
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But that doesn't mean they're not true.
